Generally when my husband and I complain about this, it is in reference to the little things. People don't hold doors open for each other. A driver cuts across 4 lanes of traffic to get in front of you and you graciously let them in, only to receive not even a little wave of acknowledgement in return. People don't say "please" and "thank you" anymore. People don't say "good-bye" to end a phone conversation, they just hang up because they are done speaking. A couple stops to talking in the center of a busy sidewalk instead of standing off to the side. Common courtesy has gone out the window and rudeness is the accepted norm. We're so busy getting what we want and going after what we want - nay, what we deserve - that we don't take a moment for basic human respect.
That's one of my pet peeves. And I understand that there isn't really anything I can do to change any of that, but I also think that people do it unconsciously, and because they are never called out on it, never need to rethink their actions or their lack of action.
What I can't tolerate - and what I won't tolerate, is deliberate, unnecessary, and uncalled for meanness. It is one thing to flip off the driver who cut you off on the freeway and then slammed on his brakes; an offense has occurred. An offense singular to you has occurred. It is quite another to be mean and rude for no purpose other than being mean and rude, and it is yet another, even greater offense to do that under the guise of being "anonymous".
I wrote a pithy little sardonic post a while back about watching paid programming while feeding my 4 month old son at ungodly hours when only paid programming is on television. As you can see, there were two comments on the post, one wanting to know how the Magic Bullet worked out for me, and the other saying it worked really well for her.
Then today, this comment showed up:
...and fucking lit me off.
Now, I don't know which one of us he was referring to as the "silly, dumbed-down American"; probably he meant all three of us, since only the a silly, dumb American would buy a product advertised on television which happens to make perfectly good shakes, purees, marinades and baby food. But I have the feeling that both kys and Mrs M will agree with what I'm about to say.
Which is that this comment was completely and totally unnecessary. It was mean just to be mean and scathing. Dude, I don't know you and you don't know me. You don't know how much of a loser I really am or actually how fat I am, but I am quite clear now on what an asshole you are. Not only are you an asshole, but the fact that you chose to make your oh-so-intelligent comment (that's sarcastic too, in case you couldn't tell) cloaked as "anonymous" tells me that you are not only a giant fuckwad, but that you are a coward as well.
Let me tell you this too, fuckwad, that I am a proud, intelligent American who does not believe in penis enlargement, with too many shiny plastic credit cards which I will use to purchase whatever the fuck I please. And unlike the fact that I, in no way deserved your rude and unnecessarily cruel comments, you are totally getting what you deserve in my response, simply because you chose to be mean. Presuming I don't actually know you (and if I do, you are even more of a chickenshit for being anonymous), I didn't ask you to read my blog. You don't like it, you don't like my writing, you don't like me, close the window and move the fuck on. Did your mama teach you to be this rude or is it just a trait you picked up in your non-American country?
You want to be smug, you want to be mean, you want to be rude? Fine, that is entirely within your right. You read the post, I opened myself up for comments and you gave me yours, I get it. But grow a pair and quit leaving your comments as "anonymous". My name is Karen and I stand by what I said. Who the fuck are you?